Moving. How to Tell the Kids

Psssst… this post *might* contain affiliate links: see my disclosure here.

Telling the Kids When It’s Time to Move

telling the kids when it's time to move

On today’s Charlotte Moves post, I’m talking about the kids. Specifically, how do you *tell* the kids when it’s time to move. In lots of situations, I suspect the kids will be the ones ASKING to move. Whether to get their own room, or to move closer to the playground, or to have a backyard big enough for a swing set. I’m talking more about those times when the kids may not be on board.

how to tell children you're selling the house

Shop my favorites!

In our situation, they have only been here for three years and just seem to be finding the sweet spot of playing in our house. They know where the best hiding spots are. Their rooms fit their toys and their imagination. The backyard is primed for fairies or digging or rollerblading. They love this house, so telling them we’re leaving was… hard.

the girls enjoying their room

But here’s the thing about talking to kids. They’re so super smart. They may not be old enough to hear all the details, but they certainly need to hear the truth. Otherwise, it leaves questions, and when kids have questions, the answers they use to fill in the blanks are usually much scarier than the reality.

kids are smart and can figure out the answers

We spoke to all of our kids together, but that decisions was honestly to make it easier on us… I could see that individual conversations might have allowed us to be a bit more frank with the older kids as needed. We made sure that they were all fed and in relatively good spirits so there wasn’t a chance that something else would derail the conversation.

kids sitting on front porch

Honesty without too many scary details. Here’s what we told our kids: Daddy’s been looking for a new job. We live in an old house and it’s expensive sometimes. We decided that we would rather live in a different house that’s a little less expensive so that we can go on family vacations one day and do other fun things. We’re sad to leave our house, but excited to find a new house with new bedrooms or maybe even a big playroom. We don’t know where. We don’t know when.

finding a new house

They have all had questions. And we’re answering those questions as honestly as we can as they come up. We’re answering with actual answers as opposed to brushing things under the rug or patronizing them with expressions like “don’t worry”… “it will be fine”… or “let’s talk about it later.” Lots of times, the answer is, “We just don’t know.” Followed by, “I know that’s not easy to hear.”

telling the kids tough news

Obviously this wasn’t the kid’s decision, but we’ve still tried to include them in the process and have asked for them to help us keep the house clean. Honestly, I don’t think they’ve even noticed, but we’ve packed away a ton of their toys so that’s another way they’re all helping. We’re trying to make this a team effort and, fingers crossed, we can make the new house a team effort just as much!

staging the house for sale

Other things to consider. As parents, I’m CONFIDENT that we are more anxious and stressed and on edge than normal so I’m making an effort to be a little more generous with the kids and to find a reason to grab ice cream or get bagels or walk to the park. I occasionally check in with them and continue to ask if they have any questions for us.

kids on front porch

Children have a skewed sense of time. Every time someone comes to see the house, the kids wonder whether they bought it and therefore whether we can come home. Louisa had a lot of questions about what was coming with us: her bed, her pillow, her dollhouse. The older kids are more preoccupied with whether they’ll have their own room (hopefully) and whether they can have a tree house (maybe). Have we done this before? Nope. But so far the kids have been pretty amazing about this curve ball we’ve sent them. Hopefully treating them with respect and giving them honest language at an age-appropriate level can only help!

telling the kids when it's time to move

Click below to get caught up on the entire series!

Don’t Miss Out

Become An Insider!

Signup for exclusive tips, and tricks from Charlotte’s House!

Let’s chat!

I love comments from you, so feel free to leave your thoughts and ideas below! And don’t forget to follow me on Instagram for even more!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *


  1. Not sure if you covered this already, but will you be stayin in the same shool district or even in the same town? Wondering if your kids will have to adjust to a new school? If you end up in a different town, given how long it takes to buy, sell and close, will you kids have to switch after starting a new shool year?

    1. Long and the short of it is we’d love to be able to stay local, but we just don’t know. And we’ve told the kids this and acknowledged that that’s super hard. Thankfully we know a handful of people at all the other local elementary schools. I believe once we start the school year in one school, they allow us to finish off there, but… not 100%. Thanks!

  2. Oh… charlotte. I had to find out more about your move as i had no idea why or how or whatever… i know our situations are not the saMe, but niether is Ideal. Our kds are looking forwaRd to the move because it means being togetger as a family so that part was easIer. Harder part is selling two homes in towN in this sucky market to move out of staTe where the market is red hot – and all of the bs that comes with it! I believe we will both find the right fit and fall in love all over again with the next home. All the best to you and yours!❤️

    1. Thanks Lisa! This too shall pass as they say… sucky. We lost a fortune on the sale of the house, but that lever had to be pulled. Onwards and upwards… Good luck with all your moving logistics! xx